Unrealistic Goals

250K per year, my 2022 quest.

At the end of 2021, I was part of a group program. The coach running it told me and my fellow participants we needed to dream big and be ambitious. I remember the adrenaline rushing through my blood. 

Wow! 250K…It seemed huge to go from 0 to 250K.

I wasn’t convinced it was possible. So, the coach wondered if I was suffering from imposter syndrome. I should ask myself the question: “Did I really want it?”. Because success comes with the mindset. If I didn’t believe it, I would not make it, which did the trick.

Of course, I wanted it! Challenge accepted!

And then came 2022:

• My toddler had 2 emergency operations in 2 different countries.

• We had to travel extensively to France due to a sick relative.

• COVID hit our family and I suffered for months of COVID fatigue.

• I couldn’t find any child support as nurseries were full or didn’t take sick children.

• Raising my prices raised my revenue but ALSO my taxes from 15 to 43% (no joke).

I continued to religiously pop into my group coaching sessions, craving a magical solution. It seemed there was, I just seemed not to be able to find it. Or, again, maybe I wanted my 250k not hard enough. 

Do more, An, do more!

Despair took hold of me. I was continuously bombarded with messages from people who were succeeding and I wasn’t. Little by little, the intense support of the group fell away. I questioned myself and my business too much. It was clear I wasn’t “a winner”.

I felt hurt, and disappointed. When did I become such a failure? The wake-up call came from my toddler’s pediatrician. I told her we had secured child support. “Finally”, she told me, “Mummy will get to rest, she did so much.” I burst into tears. Me, doing so much???

My goal was still there on a paper above my desk: 250K, I was never going to make it. Talk about doing so much! Her words stuck though. That afternoon, sitting behind my desk, stressing again, I decided to take a moment, and have a look at what I exactly did this year.

I had forgotten something. 

In 2022, there were actual real-life people who had signed up with me. They trusted me with their doubts and challenges. I had been asked to help people to achieve their objectives as Lu says in her testimonial:

 “I am finally confident to say I am a literary coach”

 By focusing so much on my 250K, I didn’t see what I already had achieved:

• Happy clients!!!

• A thriving business despite 5 months of having to put it on hold. 

• Mr. Taxmen seeing me as a success and raising my taxes.

• A work schedule around my needs (15h max. per week)

• The gift to myself and my toddler of 48 Fridays of alone time.

Wasn’t that my goal to start with (except for Mr. Taxmen)? I had wanted to become an entrepreneur so I could help ‘my’ people and be the mum I craved to be. But by focusing on what was an unrealistic goal, I almost tossed those achievements aside.

Does it mean you should not have a goal or not focus on the financial side? Of course not! It does mean that you have to already know what you want to achieve with your business.

Where do you want to go? What are your terms? Only then can you set your goal and not follow someone’s guidance, as I did, that might or might not make sense to you. 

And that is exactly what I will be doing this year. I have ambitious goals for this business and you will be the first to hear. But it will be on my terms, the ones I need and want. 

An

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